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Lonely

December 29,2017

God said, ' it is not good for man to be alone'! And he said it for a reason. Men nature is to be needed. When a woman shows to much

in-dependency it makes a man feel not needed. It strips him from his manhood of being needed. That's why they pay sex providers. A woman should never stop making her man/husband feeling  needed.

They are insecure about themselves

December 28, 2017

Men with insecurities have low self esteem. They have serious problems making a commitment with a woman.

Why men pay sex providers !

This blog maybe one of the most ugliest reason why men pay providers but it's the truth.

It's plain simple some men just don't know what to do or say.

They have low self esteem for many reasons like:

Being over weight

Lack of social skills

Feeling unattractive

May have been abused as a child or in a previous abusive relationship

Thinks he's not good enough

Doesn't have the ability to attract women

Can't appreciate a woman's true radiance and he's worried about the woman out shinning him. So he rather be in a private setting and pay a provider to have control over the situation because he's paying for it.

He don't get enough attention and a provider can make him feel he's the only man in the world. It makes him feel special and important.

Can't satisfy one partner in a relationship so he looks to exploit a woman (sex provider) sexually that will make him feel as if he is the bomb lover. But the reality is that's what sex providers get paid for.

A man with insecurities and low self esteem would never be satisfied because he's not happy with himself. He will continue to chase the thrill instead of finding his self and growing up !!!

Want a woman's companionship

December 27, 2017

Even if you are a man's wife or girl friend he desires for you to be his best friend too. Its great foreplay and will keep the fire burning in the relationship. Men can sometime be easily distracted by so many other opportunities. Example: (women)

But if you can give him companionship which is:

Friendship

Closeness

Togetherness

Amity

Intimacy and rapport

This will make it very difficult for him to be so easily distracted because men crave this so much from a woman. But so hard to find.

Why men pay sex providers !

Want a woman's advice

December 26, 2017

In today's world men have a lot of pressure on them. They are expected to do and know everything !

Like:

Work

Pay bills

Mechanic

Handy man

How to please a woman sexually

How to treat or talk to a woman

What a woman really want

What's a nice gift for a woman

Where's a nice place to take a woman

How to understand a woman

And the list goes on but the best way to find out what a woman want and like is to ask another woman with experience.

Why men pay sex providers!

Men also like for women to tell them what she wants and believe it or not they like to be told what to do in a respectful way. It's not always about sex but after stimulating his mind and giving him something to work with it's easy for him to get turned on.

Want a woman to listen to them

December 23, 2017

It has been said,"to win a woman's heart is to listen to her problems Believe it or not men are the same way!

Most men were taught to be strong by holding back, but its the opposite. They want to be able to trust a woman with their secrets of the good, bad and ugly. This take some men time to build the trust that a woman will listen without being interrupted or judgemental.

One thing that turns a man off is a nagging woman and a woman that don't listen to his heart or will throw it back in his face.

He has to be able to trust his woman.

When a woman don't listen to a man or interrupts him it makes him feel what he has to say is not important!

Reason why men pay sex providers!

Dissatisfied in his marriage or relationship

December 22, 2017

There is no exact reason why a man is dissatisfied in his marriage or relationship but a few is because there's no communication and bad body language.

Men expect for a woman to already know what they like or she should do. Which is impossible for a lot of women. All women just don't have the experience.

Reason why men pay sex providers!

I suggest try to develop an open communication by starting off just being honest about what turns you on or off.

It's good to use body language for a jump start, such as hugging, cuddling and kissing.

Looking your other significant in the eyes. That's a great sign of being honest.

10 reasons why men pay sex providers?

December 21, 2017

What is a sex provider ? Its a nicer word for prostitute, call girl or escort.

What do a sex provider do? What they get paid to do.

The 10 reasons men pay providers are:

Dissatisfied in his marriage or relationship

Want a woman to listen to him

Want a woman's advice

Want a woman's companionship

They are insecure about themselves

Lonely

To make them feel like a man by being in control

Extremely high sex strive

Want a specific fetish

Addicted to sex

10 reasons why men pay sex providers?

December 21, 2017

What is a sex provider ? Its a nicer word for prostitute, call girl or escort.

What do a sex provider do? What they get paid to do.

The 10 reasons men pay providers are:

Dissatisfied in his marriage or relationship

Want a woman to listen to him

Want a woman's advice

Want a woman's companionship

They are insecure about themselves

Lonely

To make them feel like a man by being in control

Extremely high sex strive

Want a specific fetish

Addicted to sex

Reasons why R. Kelly don't see nothing wrong with a little bit of bump and grind?

March 2, 2019

     I would like to first give you the definition of the lifestyle R. Kelly has clearly choose to live and has used his celebrity status to capitalize off.

     Dominance and submission (also called D/s) is a set of behaviours, customs, and rituals involving the submission of one person to another in an erotic episode or lifestyle. It is a subset of BDSM.

Physical contact is not necessary, and D/s can be conducted anonymously over the telephone, email, or other messaging systems. In other cases, it can be intensely physical, sometimes crossing into sadomasochism. In D/s, both parties take pleasure or erotic enjoyment from either dominating or being dominated. Those who take the superior position are called "dominants"—Doms (male) or Dommes (female)—while those who take the subordinate position are called "submissive"—or subs (male or female). A switch is an individual who plays either role. Two switches together may negotiate and exchange roles several times in a session. A dominatrix is usually a female sex worker who dominates others for pay.[1]

It is common for writers to capitalize the "D" in Dominant but leave the "s" in lowercase for the submissive. Many extend this to His/Hers, Him/Her, He/She, etc., to make it clear when they are referring to a Dominant.

Credit to the Wikipedia

     R. Kelly is only doing what has been done to him in the past and has accepted it as a norm. He stated he was molested by a family member when he was young. He has also made attempt to do the same to one of his own family members as well. This is why he selects similar victims of sexual abuse, low self- esteem , or star struck.  This has nothing to do with him being a celebrity, its more of a spiritual attack to keep a person in bondage. A person can not flourish healthy mentally, emotionally, physically, financially or spiritually when you are in bondage. This is what carries generational curses.

1. Health wise it cause chronic illness from holding dark secrets for so long.

2.Mentally you become delusional.

3.Emotionally you could never love anyone else because you don't love yourself.

4.Physically you  place yourself in a position to become a substance abuser or other addicting behaviors.

5.Financially you spend money to feed your distraught way of thinking.

6.Spiritually it pulls you away from God into a dark world.

     Theses are a few signs of the results you may notice in your family or other families. This unfortunately is a very common situation not only in the black communities but in many cultures. My experiences have been with men in power and money.

Example:

     I was never a smoker I hated cigarette smoke but during my long career in the adult industry I advanced in my services and catered to domination with smoke fetish. This include brown shower, golden shower plenty of cigarette smoke and burns on the clients body with long red painted finger nails, using him as a ash tray and toilet. 

     Once you voluntarily participate this spirit quickly attaches itself to you. It has now special age, gender occupation or race. The younger the better for it because quote unquote the younger the better to train to become a full blown monster. Many R. Kelly's victims have confessed themselves as being trained . Thank God the plan satan  had to keep the young ladies and many others in bondage has been exposed. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Satan  I have written about this in my books where you can find on my website on the bookstore page at www.thepurposeofclosure.com 


Please do not take this information lightly share and tell anyone especially with your (our) young children and teenagers in a tactful manner.  Contact me via email [email protected] to share your comments or questions.

MsAlexis aka Cassandra Brand

    














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